Whether you are new to cross dressing or you've been dressing as a woman for years, one of the first questions I always ask people I consult with about about feminization is "what are you trying to achieve?" Are you trying to learn how to pass as a woman full time? Pass more completely whan you are dressing? Basically, what are your goals.
This is not meant to be a judgmental question, but rather to gage YOUR goals and YOUR needs. Not everyone wants the same things from their cross dressing.
Some people WANT to pass as a woman so completely and totally that they never feel "made." I'm sure you are familiar with that look you get from people who feel its their job to judge - that look that says "I've figured you out and you are fake."
I hate that look - its often filled with an unearned self-righteous fury. It says, I get to define YOU, not the other way around as it should be. It all comes down to you and what you feel is right for yourself.
But to be fair, not everyone who cross dresses wants to pass as a woman 100%. That's ok, GREAT even. Express your inner-female the way YOU want to.
If you watch tv at all, you may have seen a recent episode of Bones featuring a Japanese doctor who embodied that Gender Queer line of androgyny. Very well played! If that's the gender line you wish to portray, I salute you. (I was a little disappointed in the sub-plot to discover the doctor's "true gender," but its a step.)
This lens is geared towards those who want to know how to pass as a woman, how to be more fully female, and how to achieve feminization.